Friends or...
Hmm I just read a friend's entry on friends. I do agree with this friend KK that alot of friendships are 心照不宣, but if according to what one friend of mine said (shall call this friend YY), if u've not told yr close friend before that I tink we are quite good friends or something along the line then u must be really 不熟with this friend. Well I agree and disagree with YY's statement. It shd apply more between extroverted-extro friends or extro-introverted close friends as it is unlikely that intro-intro people can be so explicit with each other. As an INFP, I must confess that I dun tink I have ever told anyone "hey u r my good friend" or "we are gd friends" as I will naively assume that such an understanding should be implicit. One main reason I dun explicitly recognise close friends is that what if it's a one-sided affair? That will be so embarrasing. So I dun really bother about whether friend ZZ treats me as a close friend so long as I treat ZZ as one.
Since Im on the topic on friends, it just gets more superficial as we get older. Felt it even more in Uni. Friends are for networking purposes. You try to know more people for ulterior motives, for your own possible future benefits. You probably won't go out with these acquaintances or networking friends or even project mates, but when you need their help you realise you do MSN/email/SMS them. Too many such relationships in Uni.
This friend JJ once fedback to me that my blog entry on friends some time ago is so superficial. Haha. Perhaps. So I shall try to be less superficial this time round. I agree with KK that close friends are those you can pour yr troubles to comfortably. I must add that it's also someone whom you feel comfortable with. If I dread talking alone to you, taking the same lift as you, going out alone with you, taking the same class as you only, eating with you, then you shdnt be my close friend since I dun feel at ease with you ALONE. I emphasized ALONE because its completely different if you are in groups or cliques since there are other people to mask the awkwardness. Haha.
Anw I dun think I wanna say much anymore. If you can see that I can do all the above comfortably with you, then it's highly likely that I regard you as my close friend ! And hope you feel the same =)
心照不宣~
