A Conformist Society
I really admire my neighbour's courage. I think I have casually mentioned to some of you before I have this super adventurous neighbour cum primary school mate. If I am wildful, then she is super wildful. Just last year, she left Spore and went to Greenland (one of my Dream countries) on her own for a year. I must admit that I did not really keep in touch with her since we are not close (though we used to be childhood playmates, jog together during my JC and NS years, and even went Bongkok together in 2006). Just heard that she got a job there and she has some Greenlandish friends.
Recently she just came back and before I got any chance to bump into her in the lift or my neighbourhood, she was gone again. Initially I had no idea where she went to this time round but after viewing her facebook(again!), I believed she went North once again and it will be another 6 months at least. How many people can be like her? Leave so casually and freely, and she was barely back in Spore for a week I think. On one hand I chide her selfishness, like neglecting her family, her parents just to pursue her own desire. On the other, I really admire her from the bottom of my heart because I know I do not have such courage.
I am impulsive I must admit, but I do think through my decisions and I know where my limit lies. And sad to say, I conform to our society to some extent. If I can be a non-conformist (Like her), I will probably pack my luggage and head to London or some mega city and seek a livelihood upon graduation. I do not have to conform to the norm of seeking a predictable career in Spore. Probably it's different since she is a gal. We may be moving towards equality but come on, guys still face greater pressure in family roles. We have to carry on the family line, provide for the family etc. So to some extent I can't be as wildful as her. If I do not have such pressures, I will go be airline crew for 2 years first, which is kinda dumb (study for a degree and be a high class waiter above the clouds) and I do not think anyone wants to hire me as Auditor after that since there are fresh grads every year. So it's either I continure to fly as a crew or settle for something else.
Back to my neighbour, she even has a Greenlandish bf now from what I gathered in Facebook. Oh she told me before she dislike chinese bf, saying they are boring etc. She had Indian bf before though. Haha. Anw I am saying all these about her because I know she will never read my blog since she doesnt even know of it. Just to share my extremely non-conformist friend's experience, and you all can decide if you wanna be like her or simply lead a predictable life. I wish but I can't I guess =(
Helpless~
